Gay in the City (Dating)

So dating is such a task for most of us. You go on many first dates trying to see if there is a possibility of meeting someone you can relate. In most cases you don't go beyond the first date because you flash forward unintentionally to the future and ask yourself questions like, Can I see myself with him? Do I think my friends would like him? Would he be honest? All the things that take time to learn but sometimes time is something you don't want to waste especially in your 30's.

Then comes along someone that has captured your interest and you go on a 2nd date. The 2nd date comes along and before you know it you are seeing someone more and more. Now you worry about things like questions from Friends asking your thoughts and feelings. The teasing of friends and family because you are beginning to like someone. You then have to worry about all those barriers, that you you made to guard you against hurt, going away.

In essence what I have learned is you take things day by day. You don't plan next month or even next weekend. What you do is enjoy the time spent together and learn from that experience. Dating is not easy especially gay dating but life isn't either. So just go with the flow and enjoy the moment. Block out the questions, block out the teasing, get to know a new side of yourself that has been suppressed for a long time. If it doesn't end up working out at least you were open to the possibility. The bitterness has died and optimism is born.