Monday, January 14, 2008

Gay In The City (Dating & The Single Vibe)

Sometimes as a gay single man you spend most of your time considering one person and one person only and that is you. You're always on the go, the life of the party, and throwing that single independent vibe out. You can't help it, especially if you have been single for awhile.

Once you start dating and find someone that you actually connect with, you begin to focus on dating that one person. Unfortunately your vibe still says that your single and all of sudden offers of other dates start to come in.

I had 3 offers in a matter of one week, something that did not happen while I was single. Last year I would have said, I need to go on these dates and see what they have to offer. Today is a different day. Even though I was so flattered by the interest, those offers come in and I have no interest to explore. They only make me want to explore and take bigger chances on getting to know the person I am dating.

So how do we show that we are not interested without actually saying it. Does my vibe have a hard time catching up with my feelings? At what point does your vibe change from single and looking! To happy and attached?

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